Friday, December 18, 2015

It's been a while since my last post

Happy Holidays to everyone. I just wanted everyone to know that I am still working on posting our photos. Once I am finished processing them I will post a link to all of them in a slideshow.

I should also mention to first time readers that this was a trip for personal healing and also to see the country. Though I had been in country before I had never been there in times of peace. This vistit showcased the people and the country in present day not as it was during the conflict.


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Thanks

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Happy Veterans Day

To all the veterans reading this blog. Happy Vets day. Thank you for your service.

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Helping Other Veterans

After being back three weeks I went to my first therapy session feeling good about how I felt post trip. Things have gotten better for me, I attribute that to my having the opportunity to go back to Vietnam.  Without going into great detail I was asked to do a Q&A with the Veterans Administration, Vietnam Group Therapy session in December.  I am excited to talk with the group. I envision a lot of scenarios and questions but I guess I will have to wait to discuss returning with fellow veterans until then. I think it will be good for them and for me.

Personally, I think it would benefit all veterans that are mentally and physically prepared, to go back and see Vietnam as it is today. It is nothing like it was when we were in country so many years ago. I think seeing as it is, makes a person realize first hand and up close that the Vietnamese have moved on.  I can only speak for myself, but seeing it as it is today has allowed me to finally let go and let the war inside of me end. Yes, I still need to work on myself, but I'm headed the right direction.

Going back is expensive and challenging mentally and our age it can physically challenging too. Most of all it's hard to go back to places that have haunted your memories.

But for me it was rewarding and somehow very calming to do it.

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Our last train ride in Vietnam - The train from Hue to Hanoi - A video Slideshow

This is the last of our train ride videos. This leg was from Hue to Hanoi. What a great ride. Enjoy the video slideshow below.

Click the photo below to be taken to the video slideshow
Enjoy!


Thursday, October 29, 2015

My After Trip Thoughts and Information Regarding the Trip

Why did I want to return?

I've spent years in therapy, but even with an occasional breakthrough moment, the therapy always felt incomplete. I somehow knew that needed to quit remembering Vietnam as I knew it, so many years ago. I felt the only way this was going to happen was to go back.

I have really screwed up memories of my time in country and I have large memory gaps. I wanted to finally know what my mind completely blocked and what it made up to replace those gaps.  My hope was that I would start regaining memories so I could say my goodbyes and start the process of forgetting the only version of Vietnam I had ever known.

This next statement will likely offend my fellow veterans and I am sorry for that.  But, my ultimate goal is to let go of all things military once and for all. I am tired of being defined by it.

Survivors Guilt

Long ago I found a way to put the survivors guilt in a box. Yet, it always remained with me in the background. I've spent many hours dwelling on why I returned and many of my friends and high school buddies didn't. Another thing that I always felt very guilty about is what we had done to the Vietnamese civilians.  Down deep I wanted to learn more about our impact on them and their country. I needed to meet them, talk with them and learn about their lives.

The Process of traveling to Vietnam

What did it take to make this happen?  In our case, finances were a major issue. When I made the decision to go back I decided to do a fundraiser on Indiegogo.com to help pay for the trip. I saw this as the only feasible way to return.  This raised about a third of our expenditures. When the fundraiser ended it gave us enough to start processing passports, visas, book flights and starting looking at itineraries, hotels and tours.

The rest of the financing would require lots of personal financial adjustments to get us there.  My brilliant and beautiful wife Martha started shuffling our finances and saving money for the trip.

At about the same time we started planning our trip I met another Vietnam veteran on line. He had also served with the 199th LIB, but was in country before my time there. Based on good advice from this new friend I began putting together an itinerary for the trip. This helped us better plan the places I wanted to visit and gave us a timetable and ultimately an intinerary.  Eventually, I realized that in order to find the places I wanted to visit I would need some assistance from someone. We considered several touring veterans groups but the costs were much too high for our consideration. Besides, I wanted us to do this on our own without relying on a group agenda.

My online friend recommended that we contact "Ann Tours" and this was decidedly a good decision. Ann Tours provided all of tours and they took me exactly to the places I wanted to revisit and more.

Passports and Visas 

In order to return you obviously need a Passport and a visitors visa.  The Passport is an relatively straightforward process that can be done at any main branch of the US Post Office. The Visa is slightly more challenging but during our research we found that one may obtain a "visa on arrival."

Getting the visa on arrival is also a relatively straight forward process.  You can do your visa a couple of different ways. You can apply for your visa at the nearest Vietnamese Embassy by email who will in turn send you a visa application and eventually issue you a visa for the dates of your choosing.

Or, you can have a tour service (we used Ann Tours) get you whats know as a "Visa on Arrival" letter for you. If you choose the later it is a very easy process. You provide passport numbers, full name and address and they arrange it for you (for a small fee). In return you receive a visa approval letter from Vietnam Immigration services. Upon arrival you go to the airport immigration office present the letter and $45 dollars per passport and you are issued your Visa and passport stamps. See the procedure here (near the middle of the page)

Travel within Vietnam

There are many ways to travel in country. Bus, Train, Air, Car and Motorbike or Scooter rental. I don't recommend car, motorbike or scooter based on the unorthodox way the Vietnamese obey traffic laws.

Our trip was to take us from the south to the north of the country. We decided that we would take the train for each leg of travel toward the north. This allowed us to see the countryside from the relative comfort of the train car, and also allowed us to interact with Vietnamese people along the way.

Train schedules are fairly flexible so choosing when to travel is relatively easy. Choosing your train itinerary will need to be done yourself if you are not going with a tour group. The train is an excellent way to not miss the scenery as opposed to being 30,000 feet in the air. Once our itineraries were worked out, we used a company called Vietnam Impressive to purchase and deliver our train tickets.  Vietnam Impressive delivered our tickets directly to our first hotel in Ho Chi Minh City. It was virtually seamless except for a small mistake on Vietnam Impressive's part, which they corrected quickly and with many apologies.

Our stay included several tours to areas I wanted to revisit. As a result of arranging the tours we had transportation to those places built in. Other than that we walked. A lot, averaging 3-5 miles a day.

Another caveat, Vietnam is NOT handicap friendly. There are no ramps into hotels, up curbs, into shops, on to trains, planes or into swimming pools. You will find a lot of stairs. Planes land on the tarmac with roll up stairs to board rather than a Jetway to get onto the aircraft. There is zero ADA type compliance anywhere. Take that into consideration when planning. Be aware that there is a significant  amount of travel time involved in this trip (see below).

Our Itinerary:

Fayetteville, Arkansas to St. Louis, Missouri - Personal Car - 5 hours
St. Louis to Newark New Jersey - United Airlines - 5 hours
Newark to Hong Kong - United Airlines  - 21 hours plus layovers
Hong Kong to Ho Chi Minh City - United Airlines - 4 hours
Ho Chi Minh City to Nha Trang - Reunification Express - 7 hours
Nha Trang to Hue - Reunification Express - 15 hours, night train and soft sleeper births
Hue to Hanoi -Reunification Express - 15 hours, day train and soft seats
Hanoi to Halong Bay and back - 8 hours
Hanoi to Ho Chi Minh City - 4 hours - Jet Star Airlines
Ho Chi Minh City to Hong Kong - 4 hours
Hong Kong to Chicago - 29 hours including layover
Chicago to St. Louis - 8 1/2 hours including layover
St Louis to Fayetteville - 5 hours

Total traveling time - 102 hours or 4+ days moving from place to place

The Reunification Express Train

The Reunification Express Train was our conveyance for train travel.  Don't let the word "Express" excite you. The train travels at a top speed of 45 miles per hour. You can book your own tickets with them but as I said above, it is much easier and very reasonably priced to have Vietnam Impressive to do it for you.

Your choices when booking space on the train are:

Hard Sleeper Births, (no bedding) 6 births to a room, no a/c
Hard Seats (park bench like seating), no a/c
Soft seats with a/c
Soft Sleeper Births, (4 births to a room) with a/c

Unless you are interested in 15 hours in a sauna, don't even consider any option without air conditioning.  If you prefer privacy you will need to purchase all the births in the sleeper room.

For us, we felt the train was an excellent choice for many reasons. The scenery was wonderful, especially from Nha Trang to Hue where on your left are the mountains of the central highlands and on the right there are the beautiful seascapes of the South China Sea coastline.

*About the "Air Conditioning.  Be aware that on the Reunification Express the term "air conditioning" is a relative term but still better than no air conditioning at all.

Conditions on the train

If you have a weak stomach or if crowds bother you, then the train may not be for you. The Reunification Express is rated one of the top ten hardest trains to travel on because of the crush of people, the smells and the general conditions in which you travel. If this doesn't bother you, you will enjoy the ride.

The conditions are not stellar by any means. We constantly saw small cockroaches crawling up the cabin walls. The toilets include western style toilets and squat pit toilets. The toilets were overused and the holding tanks tend to get too full, (use your own imagination here) the floors were filthy from overflowing toilets. The sink was awful and I wouldn't touch them to wash my hands. Toilet paper was non-existent.

If you go on the train or to Vietnam for that matter, do yourself a favor and carry toilet paper and wipes. Once you start traveling in Vietnam you will find that toilet paper is very scarce as are most paper products including napkins and tissues.  A small bottle of hand sanitizer would probably be pretty nice to have, too.

On the train the Vietnamese tend to carry all of their food for the trip with them. I guarantee that you smell things you never smelled before. What is harder to imagine is that people are eating those foul smelling things. Some of the food was just downright awful in the confined space of the train cars.

The sleeper cars are a little bit better except for the bathrooms, they are the same. The linens were worn but clean.

Tours

If you are a Vietnam Vet and have not been back since your tour in Vietnam, I cannot over emphasize the importance of using a tour service to get you where you want to be. They know how to get you there, and provide many historical facts for you to consider once you are there.  We used Ann Tours. They were absolutely fantastic. Our drivers were experts in navigating the insane traffic and our guides were English speaking and very much the historians.

The tours of importance to me were in difficult but not impossible to find places. Time had definitely changed and erased what I had remembered. Without guidance to them I would have never found them again. This was especially evident at two of the venues I chose to visit.  The first was the rear support base of the 199th LIB. This is now a huge industrial park. It looks absolutely nothing like it did when we were there.  The second was the Horse Race track in Cholon. All that remains is a column with the bronze horse and a half an entrance gate. The entire venue was demolished and in it's place is a huge sports complex that now hosts events like the Asia Games.  I highly recommend that you get a tour guide to help you.

What will it cost you to go

This isn't an expensive trip by world travel standards. But for us, it was definitely a financial stretch. What follows is a break down of our costs. This is as close as we can define it.

Passports and Visas

Passports - $250 - One renewal @ $110 and one new passport @ $140
Visa on Arrival Letter -  Covering both of us - $25  - Facilitated by Ann Tours
In country Visa issuance - $90 for both of us - Actual issuance of the Visas and stamps in your passport.

Total - $365 USD

Air Fare

Shop around, you are likely to get a better price if you shop 6 or more months in advance. Lock in the lowest airfare and seating you can find that fits your needs. We even booked our Vietnam domestic flight in advance. We locked in a really low cost air fare by shopping 7 months prior to departure.

An aside, if you are big or tall you may want to book business class. We were on 777's both ways for our the long legs of our flights between the US and Hong Kong. We had economy seating but chose aisle seats to allow us to stretch out a bit. Remember, you will be on some of these flight's for 15+ hours each way.

United Airlines - Round trip air fare for two from St. Louis, Missouri to Vietnam and one in country flight for two

Air fare for two  - $1747

Train Travel

We booked these in advance but we only booked the train trips one month in advance as there are no discounts available. However, do book somewhat in advance so that you have seating choices as the train is really, really crowded. See my review of the train conditions in the "Travel within Vietnam" section above.

Our trip included the following legs: Ho Chi Minh to Nha Trang, Nha Trang to Hue and Hue to Hanoi. We booked the tickets through Vietnam Impressive who in turn confirmed the bookings via email along with a receipt for the expenditure.  Thy sent the tickets to our first hotel in Ho Chi Minh City at our request. .

Train costs for two - $259 USD

Tours

Our tours were arranged by Ann Tours. They took me back to the precise location of places that were important to me. Martha and I also decided that we would save up for a three day cruise on Halong Bay which was also arranged by Ann Tours.

Tour Costs - $1280 USD

Hotels

We booked hotels seven months in advance through Hotels.com. While I am sure we did quite well with hotel costs I am equally sure that hotel costs could have been much lower if we had known what to expect in country.  We decided that because we don't speak Vietnamese it was to our advantage to stay at hotels 4 and 5 star ratings. We were glad we did. Research and reading reviews revealed that these hotels all had English speaking staff and a concierge to help guide us to where we wanted to go and to recommend restaurants and shops.

Our last hotel during our layover in Ho Chi Minh before flying home was only $20 USD including tax. It was clean, comfortable and located near the airport, but nobody spoke English so communications were a major issue.

In Vietnam, a 4 or 5 star hotel is a really nice hotel...but they are very inexpensive by American standards, given the amenities and free breakfasts at each one we stayed at.

Our most expensive hotel was $62 USD per night with the rest averaging about $50 plus tax a night. But if you are adventurous and don't require all the amenities you could stay in Hostels for a fraction of the hotel cost per night.

Hotel costs - $848 for 13 nights


Food and drink

Food is extremely fresh and quite good in Vietnam. You will be pleasantly surprised at the presentation and pride with which food is prepared. This is even somewhat true with street food. If you are a foodie you will love this place. Pho restaurants are very cheap at about $15 for two meals but you can spend up to $50 for a gourmet meal including appetizers and drinks at more upscale places.

Food and drink total - $700

Laundry

We went over thinking that since we bought light weight easy to pack clothing (we only had carry on sized back packs and small personal bags) that we would do our wash in hotel sinks. This proved (for us) not to be viable. We tried to do our wash by hand at the first hotel, but we found that the effects of eating fish sauce and walking around in 100 degree temperatures resulted in the clothes still smelling sweaty and mildewed. We opted to send our clothes to the hotel laundries at the next few stops. This process just takes a few hours...they pick it up in the morning and drop it off in the evening.... and we didn't have to mess with it.  Besides, we were on the move a lot and drying in time was an issue.

Laundry costs - $55

Miscellaneous Expenses

The Vietnamese do not expect tips and guide books will tell you that. The reality is they work very long hours and are always very eager to help you. So, we tipped.  The gas shown below was our gas to get us to and from St. Louis (our departure and arrival point).

Gas, tips, cabs costs - $150

Massages

Extravagant? Not really. Massages in Vietnam are dirt cheap and very professional. Martha is a Licensed Massage Therapist and really wanted to compare techniques and we both needed to have the kinks worked out after all the air travel, tours, walking and boat trips.

Massage costs - $150 for 10 massages (avg $15 each)

Souvenirs 

We purchased souvenirs for our friends and family

Souvenir costs - $200

Our grand total for the trip (aprox) $5,604.00 USD

What to expect from Vietnamese people

One of my concerns was whether or not I would be welcomed back to their country as a visiting American. Would we be hated?  My online friend told me this wouldn't be an issue early on.  But, I had to experience it myself. You probably will go with the same ideas and concerns.  What I experienced from the Vietnamese was amazing. Every one of them I interacted with was very gracious and kind. When I was asked if I had been to Vietnam before, they invariably had to touch me and say things like "I am glad you came back", "we are over the war", "we are better now", "you should forget how it was."

To clarify why I feel that they hold no animosity, you have to first understand that the median age in Vietnam is 30.3 years old. They weren't even alive during the war. They know it happened, they know the history, they certainly know what it did to their country but, the current generation has moved on. They are now very focused on improving their country, its economic status, repairing and renewing by way of modernization of infrastructure and of course improving their personal status.

After seeing and experiencing all of this first hand I can tell you it's not the Vietnam I knew during the war. In fact it isn't even close.

So, you might be thinking does this relaxed attitude toward Americans exist in the entire country? Yes, I think it does.  But for me I have one personal caveat, Hanoi.

While I found the people in Hanoi just as friendly and enthusiastic I sensed a more guarded attitude when I spoke with them. Martha quickly points out, it was my attitude that changed when I got closer to Hanoi. The  name of the city still carries a stigma for me as an American veteran. The name "Hanoi" raises my hackles so to speak.  The real truth is that there just wasn't anything to substantiate how I felt.

Visiting places important to you

This is where it got weird for me. As I stated above most of my memories were really just fragments of memories. I needed to go back to the places where these memories took place.  I needed to say my final goodbyes.  But the places I knew so long ago were changed or simply non-existent. This is tough to accept but in the same instance somewhat calming. There were no military vehicles on the road, no smells of diesel exhaust and the ever present Lambretta's had gone missing. It was nothing like I remember.

This was to be the theme for nearly all of my visit. Nothing was the same. I should have known it wasn't going to be the same, but, in my brain I only remembered the war torn country and places that I knew forty six years ago. Some of these places were etched into my brain through reoccurring nightmares. Some places looked and felt familiar but for the most part the sites had changed so radically they were unrecognizable.  Which in my mind is further proof that the Vietnamese have moved on.

The Communist presence

As you know the communist government is still in control today.  But back in the mid eighties the country had stagnant economic growth and very limited options for rebuilding the countries infrastructure. It was then that foreign companies were allowed into the country.

At about the same time, Vietnam realized that in order to accommodate the flood of multinational companies seeking to build new factories and allow further investing to flourish. Vietnam they would need to upgrade infrastructure . Japan and Australia are now its largest investors. By all accounts Vietnam has become an economic dynamo with a high presence of tech companies investing and building there.

As for the communist presence, it is still very evident. As a visitor you will see many government buildings, barracks for soldiers and their families, in every province of the country. you will also see communist and Vietnamese flags everywhere.  During our travels we saw many soldiers out and about. They were all unarmed except a few that were stationed at the gates of government facilities.

How seeing my "personal places of importance" has impacted me so far

As our tours progressed, I could see that the places I remembered just didn't exist as they had been before. I also started thinking that if the places didn't look the same, then Vietnamese must have changed them for a reason.  My conclusion is they are rebuilding and erasing what Vietnam was in the past.

I further reasoned that if they had moved on perhaps I should too. After all, Vietnam was just a couple of years in my life that defined my every action for the following forty six years.  At this point I think going back did change me however, for the moment I think the changes are subtle. My perspective is that my mind has quieted, I am calmer inside.  I feel less prone to be nervous in social situations.

At the same time I know that I still need to try harder to accept people for who they are and not who I want them to be. I know I am still a work in progress  The biggest and happiest change for me is my nightmares are gone. They have vanished.  I am sleeping the night through for the first time in my adult life. It's somewhat miraculous to me.

My beautiful Martha is quick to point out that I am still quite OCD and still try to be in charge of everything and everyone. But the difference now is that I recognize that I am doing it.  Now I need to work harder to change and accept that I don't have to manage everything.

So, for now that is where I am. I am much happier now that I've gone to Vietnam. I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to return. Thanks to my family, my friends and my supporters for making this happen for me.

Lastly I need to thank my wonderful wife Martha for sticking with me for the last 26 years.  You have never stopped believing in me and putting up with me.

I love you Martha. Always and forever.










Sunday, October 18, 2015

Train Travel on Vietnam's Reunification Express in Three Stages

Early in our planning we knew that train travel in Vietnam would allow us to see more scenery while traveling from south to north. Other reasons included budget considerations and the desire to interact with Vietnamese nationals.

The train is a unique way to travel if you really want the full Vietnam experience. Seating and births are offered in several configurations. Hard seats (wooden benches) with no A/C, Soft Seats with A/C, Hard births (no pad sleeper births) no A/C and finally Soft births with thin mattresses with A/C.

We arranged our train bookings in advance from the states using "Vietnam Impressive." They are very reputable and customer oriented.

We did the train travel in three stages. Our first leg took us from Ho Chi Minh City to Nha Trang via air conditioned coach soft seats. Understand that on the Reunification Express the term air conditioning is a relative term. It may mean working A/C and a comfortable air conditioned coach or, the A/C will be marginal and only cool the coach down a few degrees. We learned it's luck of the draw.

We are currently putting together video slideshows of the three stages of our train travel.  Our travel video and photos going from Ho Chi Minh City to Nha Trang (south to north) shows the distinct terrain changes from flat rice paddy's to the foothills of the central highlands. The further north we went the more dramatic the views became.

Click on the photo below to see our video slideshow for the first of three train rides south to north (Please click full screen on the lower right of the video window also please change to 1080P for this video)

Stage One - Ho Chi Minh City to Nha Trang - Enjoy!


Our trip from Nha Trang to Hue was an overnight trip. We took sleeper births for this leg because the train ride was to be 15 hours in total and the departure time was 18:00 Local.  The sleeper car was a no frills experience with thin but comfortable mattresses clad with clean linens and working air conditioning.  The sleeper births were beyond well used but still very serviceable.  

Our particular sleeper was a four birth sleeper.  For the first few hours Martha and I had the entire sleeper to ourselves. In Da Nang we were joined by two young men that were not traveling together. One was quite and didn't speak the entire trip to Hue. The other man spoke a few times demonstrating very good English. 

We found that traveling on the train is very interesting. The sleeper cars are kind of like a rolling hostel. It certainly took me out of my comfort zone for a while but, in the end it proved to be a positive experience and gave Martha and I wonderful insight into how polite and amiable the Vietnamese people truly are.  

At dawn we woke to see the spectacular scenery we were expecting. The train traveled right on the coast and as you will see from our video slideshow the views are breathtaking.  I apologize for the clarity of the photos in this video as most were taken with cell phone cameras with the train rocking and bucking. In addition the windows were absolutely filthy dirty. As they say, "it is what it is."  Enjoy!

Please click on the photo below to be taken to our video slideshow of our train travel from Nha Trang to Hue (In the video window please click full screen on the lower right)


Stage three - Hue to Hanoi will be posted on a separate blog entry

Our third and final train ride was from Hue to Hanoi. This leg was also a fifteen hour ride but since it was daytime we decided on soft seats on an air conditioned car.  As I pointed out earlier air conditioning is a relative term on the Reunification Express. But, we survived it just the same. 





Thursday, October 15, 2015

Motor Bikes, Scooters and Traffic Oh, my!

To truly understand the vibrant, and frenetic pace in Vietnam one only needs to see and experience the traffic. It is at once terrifying, mesmerizing and wondrous. The roads, streets and alleys are choked with motor bikes, scooters, bicycles, lambrerta's, trucks, cars, eighteen wheelers, pedestrians, hand carts, and rickshaws.

It is nearly impossible to figure out the intricate ballet that all of these conveyances coexist in. As I said in an earlier post, the Vietnamese display situational awareness the likes of which I have never experienced. Literally, the direction of all vehicles on roadways is truly random. There are of course traffic rules but they are largely ignored. One has to assume that the only rule is "there are no rules." What is truly amazing is nobody ever hits anyone. No accidents?  How does that even happen?

I hope the video below conveys the utter insanity that Martha and I witnessed during our trip.

You know the drill by now. Click the photo below to see the scooter and traffic video slideshow (click full screen on the lower right of the video window)






Selfies and pictures of Martha and myself

Hello all,

Martha and I are still sorting through our photos and videos. Once everything is sorted we will be posting meaningful thoughts, photos and videos.

But for now, this is a video slide show of photos we took of one another and also selfies.  Enjoy.

Click on the photo below to be taken to our video slideshow (click the lower right of the video window to go to full screen)


Sunday, October 11, 2015

Oh, the food, the drinks, and the Pina Coladas I have loved!

I have no idea how, but we lost weight on the trip!  The food and drinks were amazing! Everything was so good no matter where you eat. Martha's was on a continuing quest for the best Pina Colada  in Vietnam and I have to say, she left very few stones un-turned. 


Click on the picture below to be taken to a video slideshow of the food and drink and of course Martha's search for the perfect Pina Colada while we were in Vietnam. Please click the "full screen icon on the lower right of the video window.


Vietnam - My impressions of the country and her people

How did I feel about the people and country on my return? Initially I had to observe the Vietnamese closely to get a read on them. But, it's obvious that my feelings have changed. Initially how I feel is very subjective.  Describing how I feel is going to be somewhat difficult so bear with me.

First Impressions
When we set foot in Saigon I thought we were prepared for what was coming   Turns out we did, sort of. But knowing and experiencing are different things.

Months of research and reading didn't prepare us for the extreme heat and humidity, the crush of people, noise, organized chaos, motorbikes,  smells and barrage of colors and sounds we encountered.
Saigon is a city of ten million. When we first experienced Saigon it felt both organized and frenetic at the same time. Towards the end of this trip it feels familiar and safe. There is somehow a profound calm within the chaos.

Family
We quickly learned that family is revered, kindness is both provided  and expected and that helping elders and others is the hallmark and priority.

Public
We figured out abruptly that the Vietnamese are loud in public, really loud. Talking on the phone here seems to be a public event. They almost yell into their phones and a lot of them use the speaker phone turned up to the "ears bleeding" mode. But, having said that they are kind and concerned about others in sort of a gruff way.

Motorbikes
The single most "in your face" thing about Vietnam is the motorbike and horns.
Motorbikes are everywhere. They can be found hauling everything and anything that we would haul in a truck, car or in a van.

Since the Vietnamese don't make a lot of money, motorbikes are their SUV's.
Most Vietnamese don't make more than $90-$200 a month unless they are educated abroad. Rural jobs and farmer's make far less.

So, the motorbike is the most affordable and predominant vehicle for most. It is the soul transportation conveyance for individuals and they are used for everything.

Things we saw transported on motorbikes are mind bending. For instance we saw motorbikes with families of five aboard, stacked with eight 80 kilo bags of rice, ten bags of premixed concrete, twenty four ducks, dozens and dozens of eggs, live pigs, chickens, exotic birds, large cages of live frogs, propane tanks, ten five gallon bottles of water, and every size and description of boxes.

Traffic
Traffic, oh, the traffic. Imagine four lanes full to capacity with motorbikes. Then add ox drawn carts, three wheel trucks, large eighteen wheelers, busses, taxis, motorbikes, bicycles, dump trucks, pedestrians, roadside food stalls and tour vans.

The only rule for driving here is that there are no rules. We witnessed deliberate passing into oncoming traffic without regard to personal or public safety, passing on the right, driving in lanes designated as motorbike only, driving the wrong way on one way streets, constant and deliberate cutting off of other vehicles with impunity. It is in a word, insanity.

The drivers here have exceptional situational awareness. Nobody has accidents in all this chaos. Yeah, I don't know how either. I am a motorcyclist and I can't tell you the admiration I feel for their prowess as motorbike riders. Simply exceptional.

Horns
Horns are used universally, quite happily, and almost joyously.  Buses have warbling horns that warble in ascending or descending tones depending on the drivers preferences.

Large trucks have exceptionally loud air horns. Motorbikes have the typical meep, meep horns, then there are the cars. All use them constantly. They use them to warn people around them of their presence. They are used to indicate someone is a dumb ass, but most of all, they are used because they can.

Martha thinks that the Vietnamese are generally quiet people and she is is amused and bemused that they make so much noise when they are out on the road.

Religion
As I understand it, the Vietnamese primarily believe in the afterlife of their ancestors and themselves so their religious values are a mixture of religions including Catholicism, Caodeism, Daoism, Protestantism and Buddhism.

Like most things Vietnamese, their religions seem to be a fusion religious value systems that are refined to honor a higher deity or belief. Their individual traditions can't be easily defined.  Rather they must be taken at the face value of the believer.

The most important take away of religion in Vietnam is the belief of the afterlife of their ancestors and themselves. They burn fake; money, food, paper houses, cars and motorbikes to insure that the smoke of those items ride into the heavens and the afterlife to provide for their ancestors.

Overall First Impression of the People
All in all I find the Vietnamese to be warm, hard working and fun loving. Their devotion to family and religion is strong. They live in the moment and at this time, in peace.

Returning Veterans  Need to read this - "We are better Now" 
For those of us returning after the "American War" you need to know that there is truly very little animosity if any. Don't come expecting any.  But like me, I know you will. I expected it even though I was told that they want us to return, and they do.

The people are welcoming and anxious for us to see their country as it is now and as it has progressed since we were in country last. They are extremely proud of their progress, perseverance and resilience. My personal observation is that the further north and closer to Hanoi one gets, the people seem more reserved but none the less quite accommodating.

When I divulged that I had been in Vietnam to a national they most likely will say something like "That's in the past," "We are better now" or "We don't think about that anymore."

On our last day on the Dragons Pearl 2 (Halong Bay) I struck up a conversion with a twenty seven year old man. When I told him I was in the war he got his laptop out and opened some archival YouTube videos showing the war from the perspective of both sides.

He then explained that he is saving the videos for when his one year old son is old enough to understand how hard his Father, Grandfather and Great Grandfather fought for their country so that he could live in peace.

One his videos showed the bombing of Hanoi. The bombs where raining down from B-52's. I can't explain why, but this shook me to the core and made me very emotional. The man saw this and said "it's over, we are better now." Hearing this sums up how the Vietnamese feel in general about the war with the Americans.

For me, having the opportunity to go back gave me peace. I feel differently now than I did three weeks ago. I have to agree with the young man on the boat. I am "better now." I look forward to the upcoming months and years. I hope I am able to be a better person, more reliable, more loving and more trusting. I am somewhat guarded when I say this but I think I will be ok now.

For me, I believe the war may finally be over. I am hopeful.

Martha's Notes:

I am really proud of Chuck.  He's had a few tearful moments, but he's stronger and happier now than he was when this journey began.  He has been delighted watching the children here.  I took a back seat and let him set our direction, because this was his healing journey.  

When it got to be time to leave was about the time that I started to feel comfortable there.  I have to say, overall, I like the energy of the people who live here.  

This was my first adventure as a world explorer, and I am determined to get the credit card paid down quickly, so we can begin to plan the next adventure.



Monday, October 5, 2015

Day Nineteen - We are Home

Hello all,

We arrived back in Fayetteville around 6 pm tonight. The drive home is only five and a half hours but it felt like twenty.  We are so jet lagged that we go from feeling great and energized to struggling to stay awake in a heart beat. We had to tag team the drive home and the last ten miles were exceedingly long. But, we made it.

In the days ahead we will endeavor to update the blog, correcting spelling and grammar errors and add photos appropriate to each section of the blog.

After posting to the blog for 18 days on our phones we found that typing on the phone keyboards produces not so wonderful text. Bear with us, we'll get there.

Vital Statistics

Date - Sunday, October 4
High Temperature (Fayetteville) - 71 degrees

Total Miles Traveled:

Planes - 19,927 miles
Trains - about 1100 miles
Automobiles - about 1000 miles

No idea how far we went on the boats and walking tours...but add a few more miles in for those!

Total Miles - about 22,000 Miles.  For perspective it is 24,000 miles around the earth at the equator.


I tried to keep track of everything we spent, but I got a little lazy as time went on.  Here's a rough estimate of the cost of our vacation.  It could easily be done for less, if you stayed in less expensive hotels and  Martha didn't drink so many pina coladas.

Total Costs: $5389 (roughly) for 18 days away from home

Airfare - $1747
Trains - $259
Tours (3 full-day personal tours, plus Halong Bay cruise) - $1280
Hotels - $848
Food and Drinks - $700 (roughly)
Massages -  $150 for 10 massages
Souvenirs- $200 (roughly)
Laundry - $55 (roughly)
Other expenses (gas, tips, cabs, etc) - $150 (roughly)


Now.....time to pay off debts and plan the next adventure!


Sunday, October 4, 2015

Day Eighteen - Over night St. Louis prior to the drive home

We are shot, both of us are travel weary. But, we are finally within five and a half hours from our home in Fayetteville, Arkansas.  We are spending the night at my son Matt's house so that we can get some sleep and then see my brother in the morning.

Our arrival at Lambert St. Louis Airport wasn't without drama. After nearly 22,000 miles of travel and our last leg of air travel our luggage didn't accompany us to St. Louis.

While in Hanoi we decided that we would do our souvenir shopping, purchase a bag to place them in the bag and check the new bag along with my backpack instead of carrying them on the aircraft. My backpack contained our clean clothes and my CPAP (I have sleep apnea).

So, after an hour spent with a very gracious and accommodating United Airlines luggage agent we were told that they would track down the luggage.  The the agent confirmed that the bags were still in Chicago.  So, the plan was for the Baggage office to call us when our baggage arrived in St. Louis on the first flight from Chicago. She said we could either pick it up or we could have them ship it to us in Fayetteville.

I was already travel weary and not having our luggage meant I didn't have a CPAP. If you've used one for a long time like I have it is very difficult, if not impossible to sleep without it. But I did manage a few hours of sleep.

On day Nineteen the luggage arrived so Martha and I went to pick it up at the airport and then headed for a brief visit with my brother and his family.

We finally got on the road to Fayetteville about 13:00.

Saturday, October 3, 2015

Day Seventeen - Arrival in Chicago - Back in the USA

We are now in Chicago, O'Hare Airport with a six hour layover before flying to St. Louis. And of course our flight is delayed by an hour making it a seven hour layover. For this flight we had two seats booked but when I decided I had better choose our seating back in August we found that only one of our seats were actually confirmed.  We had to wait for the gate agent to open to finally get the second seat arranged.

Date - Saturday, October 3
High Temperature in Chicago - 55 degrees
Total air miles (Ho Chi Minh to St Louis) - 8,969 miles
Total hours in airplanes - 18 hours
Total travel time - 28 hours

Friday, October 2, 2015

Day Sixteen - Saigon to Hong Kong

We made it to the airport in plenty of time. We got there by 02:45 and had to wait along with many others for the International Terminal to open at 03:00. Once we had cleared security we took a seat at our gate and took turns watching luggage.



During on of Martha's explorations around Hong Kong International Airport International Terminal she found Bruce Lee and got some selfies to prove it.

     
           
Did I mention this is a long flight? It's fifteen continuous hour's of flight. The aircraft is loaded to capacity with close to 450 passengers, all of their checked luggage, all of their carry on luggage plus air freight cargo.

How the hell do they store that much fuel and still fly in excess of 8200 miles plus nearly an hour idling on the tarmac?  I'm thinking they refuel in mid air. Yeah, that's it.

Our plane had in flight entertainment monitors.  This is the flight path of our trip home.



Day Fifteen - Hanoi to Ho Chi Minh City

This morning we were up early to pack, shower and eat breakfast for the final time in Vietnam. 
The taxi to Noi Bai International Airport, Hanoi promises be a terrifying exercise in relaxing and accepting that our driver is in control instead of me.

The crazy morning rush hour traffic in Hanoi seems much worse as compared to Saigon. That's saying a lot.

We booked a flight on Jet Star Airlines this time. Had we taken the train back it would have been a total of thirty to thirty five hours depending on which train we were able to book on..

Snapped this typical scooter in pack mule mode on the way to the airport.


Vital Statistics for the flight to Ho Chi Minh City

Date - Friday, October 2
High Temperature- 91 degrees, Heat Factor 102 degrees
Total Flight Time - 2 hours
Total Flight Miles - about 1200

We arrived in Ho Chi Minh City around 13:00-ish. Since or connecting flight to Hong Kong wasn't until 05:30 the next morning and knowing we needed to be at Tan Son Knut Airport at 03:30 we decided that it made good sense to take a cheap room somewhere, something to eat, rest in the air conditioning and grab some sleep before hailing a cab back to the airport.

Once again Hotels.com came through and we took a room at the Golden View Hotel near the airport.

Our room was very clean, quite modern albeit small. But hey, it was $20.76 including tax. Plus we've earned a room night with Hotels.com.

The Golden View is located on a small street in an area that is revitalizing. In the states I would call the neighborhood upper middle class because of the newer buildings and obvious efforts to elevate the living standards in the area.

The Golden View's,  View

Click the photo below for TripAdvisor reviews



So, after booking the room and taking a shower we ventured out to eat at a local restaurant named Nikka. It was an outdoor/indoor restaurant but it was very shady and had fans going so we sat outside in comfort. They had really good food and very cold beer. 

Click on the photo below for Martha's "TripAdvisor" review.



Martha's Notes:

The crowd on the flight from Hanoi to Saigon was a little more upscale than the people on the train, and the accommodations are, without doubt, much cleaner!  Taking inventory of the people, there are very few Americans, although there seem to be quite a few people from Australia.

The airport in Hanoi was super clean and efficient -- and had free WiFi!  









Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Day Fourteen - Exploring Hanoi

We will be exploring Hanoi today. This seems an odd thing to do as a Veteran of the war.
This is and was the seat of the communist government. All of the orders came from here. "Hanoi Rose" the propaganda voice of the north Vietnamese was based here. She spewed her rhetoric over the radio every day. We laughed it off. None of us liked it. Her "canned" propaganda was uncanny in it's ability to tell us what we were planning.

After talking with one English speaking member of our boat crew, I know there is great pride in the north for having defeated the U.S. And the French.  But, as the quote says "To the victors goes the spoils.

Click on the image below to see a slideshow of photos from Hanoi.

Red River

Pagoda

Martha's Notes:

Our one day in Hanoi, we took a walking tour of the Old Quarter, shopping for souvenirs along the way.  We had fun bargaining with the merchants, although I'm quite sure we could have gotten better deals, but we still spent less than $150 on a duffel bag to carry them home in, several silk scarves, several tee shirts, some paper lanterns, a couple of cone-shaped hats, a small purse, a couple of small carvings, a hand-carved chess board, and some hand-painted coasters.

Chuck felt strange being in the city where "the enemy" was based during the war.  I think walking and talking to people made him feel better by the end of the day. The traveling was starting to get to us.  I was breaking out on my face and Chuck's legs were swollen and red.  My butt hurt from all the sitting, and my legs were sore from all the walking.  

We sent all our clothes except what we were wearing to the laundry first thing in the morning, so were stuck sitting in sweaty, stinky clothes until the clean laundry was delivered around 6:30 or 7.  We quickly showered, had a fabulous dinner at the hotel restaurant, and got massages at the spa around the corner.   I have to say that every single massage I got in Vietnam was great.  I am going ot miss getting twice a week foot massages!

Our hotel in Hanoi, the Essence d'Orient Hotel cost us $62.50 the first night, plus $20 for breakfast.  The second two nights were $70 per night, breakfast included.  Overall, Hanoi was a little more expensive for everything.  Massages at the hotel spa were about $30 per hour, so we got ours at a spa around the corner that only charged $15.

Vital Statistics

Date - Thursday, October 1
High Temperature - 93 degrees, Heat Factor - 102 degrees
Miles Walked - 5








Day Thirteen - Return to Halong Terminal and Reality

We've successfully returned to the departure/arrival terminal. We've made new friends and enjoyed the boat trip a lot. Martha is ready for a long walk on something other than a boat deck.

Martha's Notes:

The ride back to Hanoi was a little scary.  There was a lot of traffic, not only the scooters we were used to seeing by now, but bicycles, carts, buses, semis, dump trucks, and cars.  All were weaving in and out, trying to go faster in a slowed-down mess of traffic.  Chuck wore out the brake he didn't have.

Vital Statistics

Date - Wednesday, September 30
High Temperature - 93 degrees, Heat Factor - 102 degrees

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Day Twelve - Halong Bay and Bai Tu Long Bay

Halong Bay (Dragon Bay) and Bai Tu Long Bay (Baby Dragon Bay)

Our trip into Halong Bay (Dragon Bay) and Bai Tu Bay (Baby Dragon Bay) didn't disappoint. The scenery was at once breathtaking, inspiring and peaceful. There are nineteen hundred Karst Limestone Islands in the two bay's. Our time was spent kayaking two separate times with one stopping at a beautiful spit of beach where we swam for a hour.  We also had dinner in a cave. All of the breakfasts, lunches and dinners were very interesting and quite good.

Martha's Notes:
A 2-hour kayak trip in 100 degree heat mid-day.  Chuck and I didn't kill each other, so we'll call it a success!  My hips, arms, and wrists ached and reminded me that I have arthritis, which I had kind of forgotten on this trip.  The heat and exercise together made me feel sick, and I spent the afternoon in the cabin trying to sleep.  I felt bad, because the boat was cruising the bay all afternoon, and I missed everything.

Our cave dinner was amazing, although I probably didn't appreciate it as much as I might have, since the heat was still bothering me.  146 steps up to the cave, and I was dripping with sweat again.  My showers that I had taken that day didn't last long.

I woke up at 6:30 am on our final day on the boat feeling like hell.  My body ached, both from the awful bed and the kayaking and climbing we had done the previous day.  The heat was already oppressive and my journal read like this:  "My  hips ache, my head aches, my neck aches.  I don't ever feel like going outdoors again.  I am tired of sweating. I  am tired of humidity.  I am tired of traveling.  I want to stay in one place.  I am ready to go home."  The morning's activity was to take a boat ride through a fishing village.  I excused myself and stayed in the air conditioning.

While I gave myself some quiet time in the cabin, Chuck spent some time talking to a young man on the crew about the effects of the wars that Vietnam had been in.  The young man, like all the others we had talked to, was fast to reassure Chuck that the  past was in the past, and that things were better now.

Our plotted positions on the way from Hanoi to Halong Bay



Traditional Vietnamese Water Puppet Show

During the trip down to Halong Bay and our boat, -our driver took us to lunch and a Traditional Water Puppet Show.

Click on the image below to see a video of the Water Puppet show. Make sure you view it in full screen (lower right of the video window).






Halong and Bai Tu Long Bay

Halong Bay and Bai Tu Long Bay are World Heritage Parks. They defy description by mere words. I'll let the video and photos do the talking.

Click on the image below to see a video of our boat trip on Halong Bay. Make sure you view it in full screen (lower right of the video window).

Our plotted position while on Halong and Bai Tu Long Bays













Click on the image below to see a slide show of some of photos from our boat trip 


As part of our Halong cruise we were treated to dinner in Cat Ba Cave. Ca Ba Island is in Bai Tu Long Bay (Baby Dragon Bay).   





Click on the image below to see a video of our Cat Ba Cave Dinner. Make sure you view it in full screen (lower right of the video window).


Vital Statistics

Date - Tuesday, September 29
High Temperature - 95 degrees, Heat Factor 110 degrees
Kayaked - 2 hours (mid-day)


Monday, September 28, 2015

Day Eleven - Arrival at Halong Bay

We finally arrived at Halong Bay at 13:20 (local). We are now in the passenger terminal waiting to board our junk. I am looking forward to relaxing with an umbrella drink on deck.
The photo below was our only image of the Bay as we approached by car.

Martha's Notes:

We finally got on board the boat about 1:30 or 2 pm, and cruised into the bay for a couple of hours.  We anchored around 4 for the night and Chuck and I joined in the kayak adventure with the rest of the passengers.  We had a little difficulty, as we've never kayaked together.  But we made it.  Sadly, Chuck got his foot caught trying to get out of the kayak and onto a ladder back onto the boat.  He twisted his knee, adding one more injury to his list.  

We had dinner and drinks after the kayaking.  Our dinner included morning glory salad with chicken, oyster cakes, boiled shrimp, steamed rice, noodles, clams and fish.  After dinner, we had drinks and visited with the other passengers.  I think Chuck really enjoyed having people who speak English around, so he could share some of our stories from the trip.

The other passengers on the trip are:  a retired couple from Australia who live near the ocean and travel extensively in their "caravan"; two young women from New Zealand, one a teacher and one radiologist, I think; a family of six -- the grandparents live in Australia, and their daughter, her husband and their two children live in Hong Kong- he was a computer guy; a family of four from Australia - the husband was a construction worker and the wife was a nurse; and a couple from Canada who were retired geologists.

It was a little disappointing when they shut down the bar and all the lights and there was nothing to do but go to bed at 10 pm.  We went to sleep quickly, though.  Unfortunately, the beds on the boat were harder than any bed I've ever slept in and I tossed and turned all night trying to get comfortable.

Vital Statistics

Date - Monday, September 28
High Temperature - 93 degrees, Heat Factor- 105 degrees

Sunday, September 27, 2015

Day Eleven - Halong Bay - Transit to the Bay

Today we embark on what should be the most beautiful part of the trip, Halong Bay. We leave for a four hour drive to the vast at 07:40 (local). The background photo of this blog is a net photo of the Bay.

This entire area of Halong Bay and Bai Tu Long Bay is a "World Heritage Park."  I have read that this is one the top diving places in Vietnam. 

I understand that there is some pollution near marina areas do to the Japanese tsunami. Reportedly the vast bay is clear of debris and quite beautiful. There will be lots of photos.


Martha's Notes:

Our trip to Halong Bay was by shuttle (a passenger van).  We were on the van with a family of four from Australia and two young women from New Zealand.  Along the way to the Bay, we stopped for a rest stop at a workshop for disabled people where they made and sold artwork.  They did not allow photographs, so we can only share the photo of our purchase there -- a small Happy Buddha!

Our second stop was a village where we were treated to a water puppet show portraying rice farming in Vietnam.  We then had lunch with multiple courses -- shrimp cakes, banana leaf salad, steamed rice, noodles, morning glory greens and french fries.  

Saturday, September 26, 2015

Day Ten - Train to Hanoi

We boarded the train in Hue. It was an early departure at 05:30. We didn't get coffee or the breakfast the hotel promised to have for us to take and go. So here we sit, an hour into a fifteen hour train ride. We have Vietnamese television to keep us company but nothing is subtitled or dubbed.
Martha is journaling, I'm bored. But the other passengers are fun to watch.
Update: We're just south of Haifong now. Another hour and half to go. Update two: We're now 20 minutes from the center of Hanoi. Next up, shower, food and alcohol.
More later

Martha's Notes:

After our miserable knees on the first train, and the mold and no sleep on the second, Chuck tried to convince me to take a plane from Hue to Hanoi.  He even got the travel person at the hotel to get us flight costs and information.  

At lunch, we talked to the young waitress and told her we were taking the trains, and she seemed really enthused that we would get to see more of Vietnam than just the cities.  So I got stubborn, and Chuck caved.  We took the third train as planned.  

The hotel didn't have breakfast to go, as they had promised us, but they did have a cab waiting at 4:30 am.  Yawn.  We ended up buying instant noodles and snacks on the train to get us through the day.  

This was by far the best train trip of the three.  People got off and on frequently, and we got to see and talk to different people along the way.

There were three high school teachers from Australia that were backpacking Vietnam.   There was a 20 to 30 year old man behind us who was Vietnamese and spoke English with a British accent, as he had been studying in Europe.  He and his wife had their 18 month old son with them, and the little boy ran up and down the aisles in the train car, and then drooled down the back of my seat!  It was Sunday again, so as the day got later, we saw more professionals that looked like they were heading back to the city after the weekend.  

The train ride took us through the countryside where I spent hours trying to get a decent photo of a water buffalo.  I managed a few good shots of the farmers in their fields, harvesting rice by hand.  It's amazing what a contrast this country is:   the cities with WiFi everywhere and skyscrapers being built, while the farmers are still working with water buffalo and hand drawn carts.  Despite the long sitting and the smells (and cockroaches) on the train, I am glad we didn't miss seeing this!

At this point in our travels, I did a little health check, as getting sick on the trip was a little of a concern.  I was feeling good, other than the sinus crap from the previous train ride.  Chuck had some digestive upset that started after our trip to the Mekong and lasted for a while.  He was also dealing with a kidney stone and pulled muscles in his legs.  So, he was probably in a little pain, which may explain the crankiness I noticed a couple days before.  



Vital Statistics

Date - Sunday, September 27
High Temperature - 95 degrees, Heat Factor 112 degrees
Hours on the Train - 14.5
Miles on the Train - about 450